When my son Aaron (who is now 28) was in kindergarten, he was typically a wonderfully polite and intelligent little boy. So, you can imagine our surprise when we received a phone call one day that he was being suspended for hitting another child. We immediately arrived at the school to pick him up and learn what had happened.

We sat patiently and listened to the teacher explain how for some unknown reason Aaron had punched another boy and then pushed him over in his chair. We listened to what his punishment was going to be and then we loaded our “very quiet” boy in the car to head home.