Education Corner: Allow children to test authority

Effectively redirect children’s desire for control by offering them positive opportunities to feel in charge of a situation. Providing choices within reasonable limits allows them to exercise autonomy while maintaining a sense of structure. This redirection empowers them to make decisions within boundaries, fostering independence and a sense of responsibility. By doing so, you’re guiding them toward constructive decision-making and helping them understand the impact of their choices, all while respecting their need for influence.

To help a child feel seen, heard, and valued, it’s important to actively listen to them, acknowledge their feelings, and show genuine interest in their thoughts and experiences. Offering them validation, positive reinforcement, and opportunities for open communication contributes significantly to their sense of worth and belonging. Additionally, providing constructive feedback and involving them in decision-making can foster a strong sense of value and empowerment. Consistent support and encouragement are vital in nurturing a child’s emotional well-being.

Allowing children to try tasks independently and providing age-appropriate responsibilities can help them develop independence, confidence, and a sense of capability. Encouraging effort over mere completion can build resilience and a healthy attitude towards learning. By emphasizing the process and praising their perseverance, you’re nurturing a positive approach to challenges and fostering a growth mindset. It’s a way to instill a strong sense of self-worth and accomplishment in children.

It is important to avoid fear-based consequences, which is crucial for creating a positive and nurturing environment for children. Expressing love, gratitude, and appreciation through phrases like “I love you” and “Thank you for your help” can significantly boost a child’s emotional well-being and sense of security. It helps them feel cherished and valued, strengthening the bond between you and the child. Positive reinforcement and affectionate communication can go a long way in building a healthy and supportive relationship.

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Scott Smith, Doctor of Education, has been in education for the past 43 years. He obtained his Bachelor’s from Western Oregon University, his Masters from Lesley University, and his Doctorate from Northcentral University. His major focus areas are pre-reading skills, reading instruction, and classroom instructional support. He authored “Discovering Effective Reading Instruction.” Smith currently lives with his wife in Mosier and serves on the Board of Decoding Dyslexia of Oregon.